Blogs are for connecting with other people. Yes, I really did just come to that conclusion. Perhaps it’s because I’ve never felt so disconnected in my life. Here I am in a foreign land – despite reading expat blogs, having an expat brother (in the Czech Republic since the mid-90s) and living with a French for over 9 years, I wasn’t prepared for how hard it would be to deal with the foreign-ness of it all.
I am so lonely sometimes – despite all of the time I spent alone in the
I still have my family and friends but the rhythm has changed – I am that relative/friend who lives far away. I am the one they have to figure out when to call or how to call. I know how to call but I am still working on the when.
I’m working on finding my voice. I have a hard time separating who I am and what I want from what others want from me or want for themselves. I tend to operate from the perspective of what my husband or son wants or needs instead of what I want because it’s easier for me to see. I have been told by some people (friends and psychologists) that I am very self aware. The truth is that I am able to release the words from my mouth but I have difficulty accepting them within myself. I have given my father the advice of using a tape recorder when he talks so that he can write and I should take my own advice – though I am not talking to too many people right now.
I get so blocked when I speak French – it’s especially hard when my husband is around because our language has primarily been English. Yes sure we have done French weeks/days, etc. but when we were stressed and needed to accomplish things we have always spoken in English. Now it is awkward to speak French with and around him.
